having a really intense, long-form sex dream about a married coworker will do a fucking number on you
this would happen to me
a very smart woman once said, “pain isn’t so bad, really— it only asks that we endure it.”
I went to the grocery store yesterday and the entire time I was super paranoid because I felt like people were following me and watching me? Like, my brain kept saying, “that person is following you and watching you and taking notes” and then I had to leave the grocery store because being watched
just fun n flirty facts about myself
Good example of who I am as a person: I went to a bar tonight and was surrounded by boring, self-involved strangers and across the table there was a married dude who kept staring at my tits so to amuse myself all night, I stared intently and unblinking at a point right behind his head. He looked really uncomfortable and kept turning around to see if there was a tv or something behind him. And there wasn’t. And I just kept staring at that point vaguely in the distance until he left.
"It’s cool to linger in the past and all, though you’re going to kick yourself for it in retrospect, but if you’re going to waste your time on something untenable but comfortable, it’s impossible to move forward. Move forward, or stay stuck. There’s no one foot in the past and one foot in the future option. You’re obviously not ready to hear this now; you wouldn’t even be talking to your ex if you were. You’re trying to see other people because he told you to (how generous!) but there’s no point, because you’re fixated on this future fantasy end game with your ex where he’s fixed and you’re happy. Spoiler alert: relationships are hard work and they happen simultaneous with other hard life shit. He is fully aware of this, but taking advantage of you. If someone’s not with you when they’re in a bad place in life, they’re not magically going to be with you later when they’ve arbitrarily decided life’s good enough to pencil you in. There is no “yay everything is good now forever!” place, there’s only daily commitment, which needs to take place in the present, not the hypothetical future Zac dangles in front of you to keep you emotionally hooked."
— my ex-therapist Dr. Judy Sonnenburg
if you are or are any combination of male, cis, white, straight, able-bodied, etc and you feel othered or unwelcome in relevant social activist circles and seek a community of people who will always judge you by the content of your character and not the details of your personhood, i have super good news for you about the rest of the world
put this on my grave, I swear
"It seems to me that the New Atheism — particularly its recent gaudy English manifestations — has a distinctly neo-colonial aspect. (As Cary Grant remarked: Americans are suckers for the accent!) On the one hand, the New Atheist, with his plummy Oxbridge tones, tries to convince Americans that God is dead at a time when London is alive with Hinduism and Islam. (The empiric nightmare: The colonials have turned on their masters and transformed the imperial city with their prayers and their growing families, even while Europe disappears into materialistic sterility.) Christopher Hitchens, most notably, before his death titled his atheist handbook as a deliberate affront to Islam: “God Is Not Great.” At the same time, he traveled the airwaves of America urging us to war in Iraq — and to maintain borders that the Foreign Office had drawn in the sand. With his atheism, he became a darling of the left. With his advocacy of the Iraq misadventure, he became a darling of the right."
— Richard Rodriguez, “New Atheism Has a Distinctly Neo-Colonial Aspect”, Salon (Dec. 15, 2013)
[W]e live in a sexually liberal society, not a liberated one. A truly liberated society is one where sex is value-neutral and not having sex is just as acceptable as having a lot of it.
The fact that asexuals are considered weird, sick, abnormal, mentally ill, repressed, etc is a bold indicator that we are not living in a sexually liberated society but in a liberalized one."
— The Thinking Asexual, “Women, Passion, and Celibacy | Introduction: Celibacy is Not Hereditary” (via cakewithcaroline)